My friend is dating a pathological liar dating a college student in high school
You’re going to feel ashamed and at risk, but you have to go there anyway.
People are much more kind and forgiving than you think. People will not and should not trust you as much as they did before.
Personally, I think people like this are pretty rare, but I agree, we simply can’t depend on them emotionally or practically.
Still I wonder if people who lie understand what they’re doing. While I was angry, I wasn’t angry because I thought they were a bad person.
I’ve only had two friends (that I know about) who’ve looked me in the eye and told me lies. I certainly had grace for their mistakes, but I’ve wondered looking back if I didn’t have grace for their lies.From here on out, be willing to suffer the slight, daily consequences of telling the truth.You’d be surprised at how much less tension there is in your life when you walk openly and honestly. If the person doesn’t forgive you, just know you can move on.Henry Cloud and John Townsend say people lie for one of two reasons. Somebody may believe they won’t be accepted if they tell the truth about who they are, so they lie.You can see how religious communities that use shame and fear to motivate might increase a person’s temptation to lie.
To be sure, somebody who lies has a lot of other stuff going on and it’s not so easy to come clean.