How to go from best friends to dating
A trustworthy, genuine boyfriend or girlfriend can often become your best friend.
But what if you were already best friends from the start?
There was, of course, that best guy friend who was rooting for me to overcome yet another heartache.
Not surprisingly, I began to think, “Wait, should I revisit this, now that we are both single at the same time?
“You’ve already taken that time to figure out that you’re compatible with each other,” says Winnie*, a 22-year-old recent college graduate.
“Beyond that initial attraction, the puppy love stage, and those first movie dates, you’ve already earned each other’s loyalty and trust.” Susan, a 27-year-old graduate school student who is currently dating someone she was friends with first, also agrees.
“Our [platonic] relationship progressed to the next [romantic] step very gradually.
In the midst of dramatically labeling the entire male race as untrustworthy and deceitful, my thoughts turned to who I could trust.
“You kind of know what you’re getting yourself into,” she adds.
It’s more likely, for example, that “you know what qualities you may not appreciate as much and you won’t be caught off guard.” At the end of the day, all this adds up to what everyone wants—someone who you can let down your guard with, who knows the real you, and accepts and loves you for it.
” I realized then that what I really wanted in my other half was compatibility in values, interests, and personality (which by then I knew my friend and I had). Diana Kirschner agrees that compatibility is the best thing about dating your best friend.
In the words of Kirschner, a relationship expert, psychologist, and author of Find Your Soulmate Online in 6 Simple Steps: “You can have it all in one package: friendship and romance.” In fact, many girls admit this combination is what makes dating a best friend so appealing—given your closeness and familiarity, you’re already halfway to a solid romantic relationship.