Dating a currently seperated man
The exact quote was “if you’ve mourned, if you’ve healed, if you’ve made peace – then you’re ready whenever you say you’re ready.” Allow me to correct myself. I have a client who went out with a man who was separated. On the other hand, you’ve heard tales of men who went seamlessly from one relationship to another without a break.
It wasn’t a question of whether he and his wife were going to divorce – the relationship was toxic, the lawyers were in place, it was definitely over. They were well-matched and perfectly adorable together. You can listen to all these stories, but they won’t inform YOUR situation.
And, “separated” can mean many things: Any woman dating a separated or divorcing man is taking a risk.
Sure, some of these guys’ divorces aren’t that complicated and they’re emotionally ready to move on, but most aren’t.
This often leads to stupid behaviors like deception and lying – for example, not telling a woman your marital status until you’ve gone out too many times or, worse, telling a woman you’re divorced (especially online! You have to be honest or you’ll look like a dick – you just have to know how to spin it.
For example: She will get past the “separated” label IF you show her you have things under control and aren’t going to make her life miserable.
You Can’t Just Think About “Me” The problem with separated men is that they want to date because they’re tired of being alone and unhappy and want some hope after the pain of divorce. But as I discuss in , many may not consider what they have to offer a woman.
Yesterday’s was from a man who is legally separated (and will be for 3 years) and wonders if he’s screwed from a dating perspective.Since I am the expert on this topic and the author of “Separated” is a Red Flag Yes, the word “separated” will scare women.Anyone who’s ever gone through a divorce, or knows someone who has, knows just how emotionally and legally messy it can be.The real concern was whether this guy needed time and space after the demise of his marriage. Here are the three points I’d like you to take away from this blog post: A person who hides his separation online isn’t necessarily a bad person.He’s doing what’s practical not to scare people off.
Do you advise your clients to take the date or run as quick as possible?